Tonight I sat down with a good guy friend and discussed how the female and male mind works when it comes to relationships…or “relationships” where they aren’t really relationships because the guy refuses to officially commit but says you are “together” without the label. I’ve been in that situation, and I’ve heard from way too many of my friends using that same damn excuse from this “really nice guy”.
Well here’s where I offend a bunch of girls or make them realize the truth . . . That is a bunch of straight up bull shit. If a guy claims he’s REALLY into you, but isn’t ready to commit after at least a month, move the hell on. You can waste your time trying to make a guy realize that you are THE ONE who is going to tie him down, change him, or what the hell ever…. but most likely it’s going to end with you crying in your car while blaring Taylor Swift who seems to be the only one who actually understands what you’re going through.
I’m writing all of this from more than one horrible experience where the longer I put up with the bull shit of some chode guy, the more attached I became which made it ten times harder when I realized he was trying to get in the pants of more than one girl. You have to realize that the second you agree to the bull shit “no labels” theory; you are just showing you don’t have enough balls to stand up for yourself. You need to tell him straight up it is going to be the real thing or he can hit the fucking road. If this guy isn’t willing to stick around for a girl who knows what she wants and stands up for herself, he is not worth your time.
So if you are waiting for some guy to come around and realize that he really does want to date you, please stop putting yourself through it. You’re beautiful. You deserve so much better. A nice guy will come along if you let him. Don’t’ push someone who really cares about you out of your life because you want something you can’t have. You don’t need a guy like that around to put you down and lower your self-esteem. You have your family and friends to lift you up and help you realize your happiness shouldn’t revolve around whether that chode has texted you back or not.
“We accept the love we think we deserve”